17 Warning Signs to Look For In Your Relationship
17 Warning Signs to Look For In Your Relationship
Sometimes it's hard to spot the warning signs in a relationship, especially when you're in love. In many cases, these behaviors can escalate into emotionally, psychologically, financially, or physically abusive situations.
Trust me I've been there.
If you ever feel unsafe and need assistance, please call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If you are unsure if you have been abused the National Domestic Violence website is a great resource for your questions and they also have an online chat.
1) Jealousy
jealousy
First it is a sign of love. In reality it is insecurity and possession.
If he gets angry when you go out with friends, catches you talking to another male friend or co-worker, or tries to check your computer or phone, get angry. Take these as big red flags!
2) Control behavior
"Care" is the word that's often thrown around, but it quickly becomes clear that agency and respect go out the window. It can be anything from your makeup. What clothes to wear, with friends, when to be home.
3) Rapid intervention
In other words, things move too fast in a relationship. It takes time to get to know someone, and entering into an intimate relationship or living together is often free from the pressures of abusers.
4) Unrealistic expectations
They become dependent on you for all their needs. What starts with "You're all I need" becomes "It's your fault" because no one can be everything to anyone. I hope you know what he's thinking.
5) insulation
Every moment needs to be filled with the abuser, which becomes a habit in the Rapid Engagement stage, and before you know it is believed to be disrupting your relationships with friends and family. This can be extreme, e.g. B. Moving to a remote area, transportation or incapacity to work.
Signs of a toxic relationship
6) Blaming others for problems
Accountability may not be in the offender's vocabulary. If they do something wrong, it's not their fault. It's because of what you did. Remember that only you can control your reactions and only he can react.
Another sign of this is that they use gas lighting.
Gaslighting is when someone uses tricks to make the other person appear crazy or guilty.
7) He blames others for his feelings
Extreme emotions are used as a tool to manipulate partners, work environments, and families. Most of the time they are always your fault.
Gas lighting can also be used here. They will avoid all responsibility and blame you.
8) Hypersensitivity
They are easily offended and angry. He will rant and rave about injustices done to him in any area of life or responsibility.
You'll feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him so you don't upset him.
9) cruelty to animals or children
60% of partner abusers also abuse their children. Seen and not heard is her motto.
You can expect children to do more than is appropriate for their age. Animals can be treated with cruelty and even indifference to their suffering.
10) “playful” use of force during sex
They may hold their partner down during sex, show that violence turns them on, and want or demand unnatural sex.
They start having sex with their partner when they are sick or asleep and use sadness, anger and guilt to keep them going.
11) insult
Statements intended to be offensive or cruel. It detracts from all achievements, invents things and twists events to suit them. They can also stage fights for their own ends, e.g. B. as an excuse to leave without communicating with her partner.
